Paige Vidrine

Hey friend,

I’m committed to writing to you once a week. So here we go…

My studio is wrecked. There are boxes on boxes piled up from the move. I need to clean it out but it’s been too cold.

Let that sun come out 1 good day and I’m rolling up my sleeves.

That being said, I’ve been desperate to paint so I pulled a canvas out, grabbed the brushes and went to work right in my hallway last night.

I gotta shake some energy out.

There’s been a lot of energy flowing around me in the last 6 months, some in the form of pursuit.

When I left my ex, a guy who has been in my DM’s for 4 years shows up to Buffis after we bantered back and forth.

He’s cool, the smart guy type. 222 is his bday. That’s only fitting for someone to help me heal.

You know God doesn’t play behind me. Quality is called in at the right time for the right reasons. Friendship, mentorship, business, teacher, healer, the masculine finds it’s way to my soft side, reminding me that gentlemen, in all their many forms, arent so bad after all. (Despite popular belief)

I started hanging with someone else recently. I call him Shoota. My mom invited him to dinner. I was confused when he showed up. We do business, but I have been trying to set this guy up with some of my girls for a while. Why is he here for my mom? It was strange.

As he sat and talked to her, for the first Time I was drawn to him. I don’t know if it was because my mom was treating him like her son. It made me feel good for her. We lost my brother years ago, so when a young man gets in her good graces I can see the love she tries to pour in. It’s meaningful to her.

Shoota is cool… I feel like I’ve been knowing him. It’s a complex connection so I am taking it easy. You know how God works. Each person is there for a reason or a season. So I lean in responsibly.

I’m out of the casual dating phase.

35 year old Paige is really on a whole different wave length these days.

You see, When I first started dating again, I was a mess. Deep connections felt like magnets that were spinning out. I couldn’t make sense of them.

Now I understand a little more clearly.

Everybody teaches you something along the healing journey.

All the characters unlock a deeper part of you. They awaken the dormant energy. They heal you through the intense unfolding of your deeper truth.

You go through those strange feelings, trying to sit with them the best you can.

The attraction, the lust, the connection, the bond. It’s a lot.

It all teaches you more about yourself and the boundaries you need to stay grounded and healthy.

Some connections I had to burn photos. Some I had to write letters. Some I had to do art. All of that Just to move the energy out. Some were so intense, I started learning about soul ties, past life family, etc…

That’s a rabbit hole I’m not going down today. I will say this, my soul family is top tier! 😆😂

Anyway, We all look back in wonder or we end up scratching our head at how awkward things got. Attachment, love languages, trauma, all of it plays a roll in how we handle others and ourselves.

By the way, healing from severe trauma in relationships is hard because you need relationships to heal. So it’s this double edged sword.

Now, I’m all patched up and feel like I’m clear about what Paige needs. Life is so short. We all deserve max joy, adventure, fun and excitement.

Recognizing your value isn’t about being delusional, thinking you bring something to the table without evidence.

You have to bring value to your own life if you think you’ll be bringing value to others. In that energy, you stop chasing.

“These amazing men are coming out of nowhere!”, a friend told me recently when I was sharing my ironic stories.

Value attracts value. Women don’t chase.

I also don’t try to lure anyone in with too much mystery. I just lay my wild self on the table, silly and fun. If it’s not a vibe, so be it. Playing games is so over rated.

I like the order of operations. Keep it simple.

Proverbs 31 Woman is what my mom preaches for me to be.

Over the years, I’ve refined myself through my healing journey.

A Proverbs 31 woman, as described in the Bible, is often seen as a model of virtue, diligence, and wisdom. Here’s a breakdown based on Proverbs 31:10-31:

Character and Virtue

• Valuable and rare: Her worth is described as being far above rubies (v. 10).
• Trustworthy: Her husband has full confidence in her, and she enriches his life (v. 11).
• Good-hearted: She consistently brings good to her family, not harm (v. 12).

Work Ethic and Industry

• Diligent worker: She works willingly and with eager hands (v. 13).
• Entrepreneurial: She considers a field, buys it, and plants a vineyard (v. 16).
• Resourceful: She trades wisely and ensures her business is profitable (v. 18).
• Hard-working: She rises early to provide food and prepare tasks for her household (v. 15).
• Skilled: She weaves, sews, and provides quality clothing for her family (v. 19-22).

Compassion and Generosity

• Charitable: She extends her hands to the poor and helps the needy (v. 20).

Strength and Dignity

• Strong and resilient: She is clothed with strength and dignity (v. 25).
• Prepared for challenges: She laughs without fear of the future because she plans wisely (v. 25).

Wisdom and Kindness

• Wise speaker: She speaks with wisdom, and her words are guided by kindness (v. 26).
• Teacher and leader: She instructs and provides direction for her household (v. 27).

Family and Relationships

• Loving mother: Her children rise and call her blessed (v. 28).
• Supportive wife: Her husband praises her and is respected because of her (v. 23, 28).

Faith and Fear of the Lord

• God-fearing: She is praised for her reverence and fear of the Lord, not merely for charm or beauty (v. 30).

Reputation and Legacy

• Honored by her works: Her deeds speak for themselves, bringing her praise in public and at home (v. 31).

The Proverbs 31 woman embodies qualities of integrity, service, wisdom, and strength. She balances her responsibilities with grace and places God at the center of her life.

I have room for growth, but the energy is there.

I stopped my mom the other day when she was telling Shoota he needed a Proverbs 31 Woman.

“He needs to be a man worthy of a woman like that! I’m so tired of it being about the man finding her. He needs to be prepared.”, I fussed.

SHe never taught me that side of the puzzle. Being a good woman is what I strived to be. It attracted moths and kings. The only problem is that the moths blocked the path.

The last few years I’ve become far more selective. I didn’t even know how to handle the kings when they started arriving. But I stumbled my way to wisdom.

It’s not about what you attract. It’s about what you entertain.

Love has always found me and I’m devoted to it when it arrives. I only leave when I feel like the other party has no idea how to handle my value.

Let’s be real, I love myself more than I will ever love anyone else. Because if I lose me, I won’t be good for anyone.

So in my research over the last few years, this is has become my “list”.

He doesn’t have to be six foot, handsome, rich, etc… He just needs to be this:

A man who deserves a Proverbs 31 woman must also embody strong character, virtue, and devotion. Here’s a breakdown of his qualities based on Biblical principles and the partnership implied in Proverbs 31:

Godliness and Spiritual Leadership

• Reverent toward God: He fears the Lord and leads his family spiritually (Proverbs 1:7, Ephesians 5:23).
• Prayerful: He seeks wisdom and strength through prayer, relying on God as his guide (James 1:5).
• Faithful and righteous: He walks in obedience to God’s word and sets an example of integrity (Psalm 112:1).

Trustworthy and Supportive

• Full of trust: He trusts his wife completely and values her input (Proverbs 31:11).
• Encouraging: He praises her efforts and affirms her value (Proverbs 31:28-29).
• Secure in himself: He doesn’t feel threatened by her strength or accomplishments but celebrates them (Ephesians 5:25).

Diligent and Hardworking

• Provider: He works diligently to provide for his family, ensuring their physical and emotional needs are met (1 Timothy 5:8).
• Ambitious yet balanced: He pursues his goals while maintaining time and care for his family (Colossians 3:23).

Compassionate and Gentle

• Loving: He loves his wife sacrificially, as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25).
• Kind and patient: He treats his wife and children with gentleness and patience, avoiding harshness (Colossians 3:19).
• Humble: He puts others’ needs above his own and serves his family selflessly (Philippians 2:3-4).

Wise and Visionary

• Leader with integrity: He leads his family with wisdom and moral strength, making decisions rooted in God’s principles (Joshua 24:15).
• Forward-thinking: He plans for the future, protecting and guiding his family through life’s challenges (Proverbs 24:3-4).

Respected and Honorable

• Respected by others: His character earns him respect in the community, reflecting well on his family (Proverbs 31:23).
• Honest and just: He acts with fairness and truth in all dealings, upholding his reputation (Proverbs 20:7).

Devoted to Partnership

• Team player: He works in partnership with his wife, recognizing her gifts and working toward shared goals (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
• Protector: He defends and honors his wife, safeguarding her physically, emotionally, and spiritually (1 Peter 3:7).

A man who deserves a Proverbs 31 woman is one who honors God, treasures his wife, and strives to live with integrity, humility, and love. Together, they reflect a Christ-centered, harmonious relationship.

I’m at the age now where this is the intention, but I’m living in the meantime. Growth is priority. And you know I’ll never lose my wild side.

So here we are, writing about love from an evolved state of mind.

You’ve been on this journey so long that I’m surprised you haven’t sent me judgments. Instead, you tell me that you can relate and for that I’m committed to telling my truth.

Shoota asked me the other day what would happen if I put all the energy I have put into Buffis into my writing career.

If he only came in to whisper that in my ear, I’m grateful. I hear it every day now in my spirit.

Buffis is my base. It’s more than money. It’s a legacy for my family. I’m going to nurture it in the most effective way, using AI to maximize my growth potential.

It’s working. Once it’s stable, I’ll grow another one until my income is passive. Then I’ll have the stress off my back to be able to lean into my art in good spirits.

By the time I’m 38 everything will fall into place like a puzzle 🧩 guided by the masters hands.

Until then, I’ll keep finding ways for my artist to arrive in full form.

I trust God. It’s been hard, but it’s alright. Everyone has struggles that we don’t talk about. I believe in brighter days after dark storms. I believe in the sunshine after the freeze. I believe in all the beauty in between.

The path always leads us to what we need. Relationships refine us along the way. As long as we continue to grow, we will have exactly what we need when we need it.

Call me a hopeless romantic, a dreamer. Call me whatever you want.

I know who I am and I trust that.

With the Deepest Love,

Paige Elliott

“Servant of My God Jehovah”